08 Feb One year Support & Encouragement Group – Love & Relationships.
Hi everyone, its Shane PT4theMind and Welcome to our Friday 8th February twenty nineteen one-year support & Encouragement Group. Today we are going to talk about Love and Relationships.
Personal relationships always seem to be the first priority for so many of us. Unfortunately, hunting for love doesn’t always attract the right partner because our reasons for wanting love may be unclear.
We think, Oh, if I only had someone who loved me, my life would be so much better. That’s not the way it works.
There’s a big difference between the need for love, and being needy for love.
When you’re needy for love, it means that you’re missing love and approval from the most important person you know — yourself. You may become involved in relationships that are codependent and ineffectual for both partners.
You can never create love in your life by talking or thinking about being lonely. Feeling lonely and needy just pushes people away.
Nor can you heal a relationship in your life by talking or thinking about how awful it is. This only places attention on what’s wrong.
You want to turn your thoughts away from the problem and create new thoughts that will produce a solution.
Arguing for your limitations is just resistance, and resistance is simply a delay tactic. It’s another way of saying, “I’m not good enough to have what I’m asking for.”
Remember, when you think joyous thoughts, you’ll be a happy person, everyone will want to be with you, and all of your current relationships will improve. Say these positive quotes to yourself daily to cultivate more love in your life with yourself. Watch as the love you have for yourself grows, attracting more and more love to you.
When you’re happy with yourself, then all of your other relationships improve, too. A happy person is very attractive to others.
Therefore, the first relationship to improve is the one you have with yourself. If you’re looking for more love, then you need to love yourself more. This means no criticism, no complaining, no blaming, no whining, and no choosing to feel lonely. It means being very content with yourself in the present moment and choosing to think thoughts that make you feel good now.
I suggest that you work on loving yourself nonstop. Demonstrate the growing love you have for yourself with my following tips:
1. Treat yourself to romance and love. Show yourself how special you are. Pamper yourself.
2. Buy yourself flowers for your home.
3. Surround yourself with colors, textures, and scents that please you.
4. Look in the mirror, deep into your own eyes, and say to yourself, “I love you.” Say it every day until you mean it. And keep saying it!
5. Take yourself out on a date somewhere special. Go to a coffee shop and read through that novel you’ve been meaning to read.
6. Take yourself out for a walk to a park. Find a beautiful spot and lay out a blanket and have a picnic.
7. Go out to a movie or see a musical with yourself.
8. Help out at a soup kitchen, or volunteer your time at a homeless shelter. Pick up trash at the beach or your local park.
9. Donate clothes, belongings and books you don’t use anymore. Get rid of clutter. If it doesn’t bring you joy, give it away!
Life always mirrors back to us the feelings we have inside. As you develop your inner sense of love and romance, the right person to share your growing sense of intimacy with will be attracted to you like a magnet.
If you want to go from loneliness thinking to fulfillment thinking, then you need to think in terms of creating a loving mental atmosphere within you and around you. Do let all those negative thoughts about love and romance just fade away; and instead, think about sharing love, approval, and acceptance with everyone you meet.
When you’re able to contribute to the fulfillment of your own needs, then you won’t be so needy and codependent. It has to do with how much you love yourself. When you truly love who you are, you stay centered, calm, and secure, and your relationships at home as well as at work are wonderful. You’ll find yourself reacting to various situations and people differently. Matters that once may have been desperately important won’t seem quite as crucial anymore. New people will enter your life, and perhaps some old ones will disappear-this can be kind of scary at first-but it can also be wonderful, refreshing, and exciting.
Once you’re clear about this issue in your mind, and you know what you want in a relationship, you must go out and be with people. No one is going to suddenly appear at your doorstep. Be open and receptive, and the Universe will respond to you, bringing you your highest good.
Lets Affirm today! I DECLARE, I AM SAFE, I LOVE AND APPROVE OF MYSELF.