25 Jan One year Support & Encouragement Group – Forgiveness
Hi everyone, its Shane Instagram:@PT4theMind and Welcome to our Friday 25th January twenty nineteen one-year support & Encouragement Group. Today we are going to talk about Forgiveness.
I often ask clients, “Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?” We all have opinions on who was right and who was wrong according to our own perceptions, and we can all find ways to justify our feelings. We want to punish others for what they did to us; however, we are the ones running the story over and over in our own minds. It is foolish for us to punish ourselves in the present because someone hurt us in the past.
You can never be free of bitterness as long as you continue to think unforgiving thoughts. How can you be happy in this moment if you continue to choose to be angry and resentful? Thoughts of bitterness can’t create joy. No matter how justified you feel you are, no matter what “they” did, if you insist on holding on to the past, then you will never be free. Forgiving yourself and others will release you from the prison of the past.
To release the past, we want to be willing to forgive, even if we don’t know how. Forgiveness means giving up our hurtful feelings and just letting the whole thing go. A state of nonforgiveness actually destroys something within ourselves.
Forgiveness Is the Key to Freedom
Those on the spiritual pathway know the importance of forgiveness. For some of us, there is a step that is necessary before we can totally forgive. Sometimes the little kid in us needs to have revenge before it is free to forgive. For that, this exercise is very helpful.
Close your eyes, sit quietly and peacefully. Think of the people who are hardest to forgive. What would you really like to do to them? What do they need to do to get your forgiveness? Imagine that happening now. Get into the details. How long do you want them to suffer or do penance?
When you feel complete, condense time and let it be over forever. Usually at this point you feel lighter, and it is easier to think about forgiveness. To indulge in this every day would not be good for you. To do it once as a closing exercise can be freeing.
Affirmations For Forgiveness
• The door to my heart opens inward. I move through forgiveness to love.
• Today I listen to my feelings, and I am gentle with myself. I know that all of my feelings are my friends.
• The past is over, so it has no power now. The thoughts of this moment create my future.
• It is no fun being a victim. I refuse to be helpless anymore. I claim my own power.
Guys I hope you enjoyed today have a great long weekend and look forward to seeing you all tomorrow.